Ways To Deal With Your Christmas Anxiety
Do you hate Christmas? Not in a Grinch way… in an “I’m anxious and this is triggering” way?
Cause I am. In fact, a lot of people are. It's super normal.
The truth is, Christmas isn’t easy for everyone. It can be very sad and challenging. This isn’t spoken about at all, and it really should be.
No matter what the cause, Christmas has a way of highlighting all the people who are no longer in your life, and a way of stirring up a lot of emotions.
For me, this year is going to be tough because it’s my first Christmas without my pop, who I was very close to. Pop passed away three weeks ago and he was one of the most important people to me.
He was charismatic, enigmatic and magnetising. You knew he was in the room even if you were blind. He was the kind of man who, when he met my boyfriend three years ago, instead of saying “hello,” he said, “you poor bastard”.
Literally, he was the funniest man I knew.
For 32 years I have had traditions with my pop and this year it will be quiet and strange without him.
It won’t be Christmas without him. I don’t want to do Christmas without him.
But I have to. He would want us to.
So, here’s some ideas for you if you’re like me, and feeling a bit anxious about Christmas.
Lower your expectations
Go into the day being grateful and enjoy it for what it is. Don’t expect it to be the best day ever... because you’ll always be let down.
Remember, the hype of Christmas is always better than the day.
Just do you and your family
Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Don’t worry about everyone else.
Get off social. It will help you.
People are probably jealous of what you have with your family or friends.
Toast your loved ones who are no longer with you. Include them in the day.
Stay off your phone. Talk to your family and really listen. Take this time to reconnect with your grandparents, talk to your weird cousin you never talk to.
Don’t be on your stories and Insta, be with people.
Don’t be hard on yourself.
Just remember to take it easy, it's Christmas.
Be kind to yourself. That’s your gift to yourself. Give thanks and gratitude for what you have.
Know that it’s just a day.
It will pass and you will be okay. You will get through it.
READ MORE: How To Shake The Anxiety Stigma
If you are alone or need help, know that LIFELINE is always there on 13 11 14.
Also the RUOK?Day website has lots of help and advice for you.
If you know you are going to be lonely on Christmas, reach out and ask around -- people don’t want you to be alone, and want to celebrate with you.
Don’t feel like you can't ask. You can.
People don’t want you to ever feel alone or lonely.
If you need help in a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For further information about depression contact beyondblue on 1300 22 4636 or talk to your GP, local health professional or someone you trust.