What Men And Women Actually Want From Their Booty Calls

When looking for a booty call relationship, men and women have more in common than you might think.

Traditionally -- or as traditionally as you can get, in terms of booty calling, a.k.a. a relationship where the mobile phone is so vital it's right there in the name  -- the relationship has been defined in terms of compromise: men get sex in return for a greater commitment than a one-night stand, and women get a greater emotionally investment in return for sex.

However, a new study from the Federation University Australia has flipped that on its head, suggesting that men and women were after the same thing: an attractive, and also importantly, kind person to have a sexual encounter with.

"The really interesting thing to come out of this study is that both men and women treated this relationship the same," lead author Dr Evita March told 10 daily.

"I think it kind of shakes up this perception we have of men being like 'I want sex, I want sex'."

Researchers asked 559 participants to spend 'mate dollars' on a potential partner, in an effort to understand what was most important: attractiveness, kindness, or social level.

Unsurprisingly, attractiveness featured high for both men and women when choosing a booty call partner, but kindness was also a key factor.

"We predicted that men would spend the most on physical attractiveness, and women would spend the most on kindness, and that would be the 'compromise'," March said.

"What we found was a really interesting amalgamation of both characteristics. [Both men and women] considered physical attractiveness and kindness a necessity."

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The study also sought to define booty calls, which are not only separate to short term relationships (i.e. one night stands) and long term relationships (i.e. with the end goal being marriage), but also different to both friends-with-benefits-style relationships and f*ck buddies.

"Friends with benefits is really different," March said.

"You initially start out being friends, you have interactions, but sex is not an expectation of the interaction. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't."

With booty calls, she said, you know there's going to be a sexual interaction, but unlike a f*ck buddy relationship, there's more interaction.

"It's not like these people will get there, walk in the door, and start shagging immediately," she said.

"They might have coffee or watch a movie first, but it always eventuates into sex."

There's also more intimacy in booty call relationships -- and they can spans years or even decades, starting on-and-off in-between long-term relationships.

"There's a lot more hand-holding or cuddling, but also more intimate sexual acts," March said

"Anal sex and oral sex are more likely to happen than in a booty call relationship."

The study did not look at same-sex relationships, but in a previous study -- why people choose partners is March's speciality -- she did find that heterosexual people considered the physically attractiveness of a short-term mate more than homosexual and bisexual people.

Same-sex booty calls, she said, could easily be a whole new study.

Contact the author: abrucesmith@networkten.com.au

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