The Bachelorette 2018: Ali Is Ready For Love On Her Own Terms
On Wednesday Ali Oetjen will kick off her journey to find love in the upcoming season of The Bachelorette Australia, so before then we caught up with her to find out all the goss.
It's a journey she's incredibly familiar with at this point, coming third in the very first Aussie season of The Bachelor and appearing in the first Aussie season of Bachelor in Paradise. Now she's back, and she's in control.
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"Being a bachelorette you've got the one guy to choose from and you're at his mercy whereas being the bachelorette felt very empowering as a woman," Ali told ten daily.
"I'm at the stage where I know exactly what I want and I'm not going to waver on how I feel," she said.
The switch from The Bachelor -- where you vie for the attention of one man -- to being the focus of everyone's attention was daunting to Ali, but she knew it was the key to her happy ending.
"Being in control this time meant I really had the best vantage point to find my Mister Right."
The question on a lot of people's minds is definitely why? Why put yourself through the very public spectacle of heartbreak all over again.
"I suppose in every aspect of my life I don't give up on anything," she said, "It's never giving up on love. I keep trying."
"Pushing yourself to your absolute maximum is the key to growing and developing as a person and, when it comes to love, that was one thing I was never going to give up on."
In the lead-up to her season, Ali's getting to the point where she feels like she no longer needs to defend her choice to put herself out there again.
"It's a no-brainer," she said, "If I'm looking for love and I haven't found it yet... of course I'll keep looking."
"I hope a lot of girls can relate to my story because I went through a few different relationships," Ali said adding, "also for women to feel empowered to ask those hard questions."
"We shouldn't feel like 'If she wants marriage if she wants kids and she tells a guy upfront at 32, that means she's crazy!' But it's not at all... It's about being realistic and standing up for what you want."
Her heartbreaks haven't been for nothing, as Ali says she's grown, ready to find something legit, longterm and something real. It also means she knows exactly what the bachelors are going through.
"I felt like I could empathise with the guys, I had a proper understanding of the concept so I was there for them," she said. "I was more across what everyone was feeling."
Unfortunately, that connection with the process comes with a downside, the fact that with the search for love Ali will be forced to break a few hears along the way.
"Those rose ceremonies are so hard... It's difficult to break up with someone every week."
Excited to see the first ep on Wednesday, Ali is most curious to see how the bachelors appear if they'll be the same with each other as they were to her.
As for the controversial finale of The Bachelor, Ali says she picked up one tip from Nick "Honey Badger" Cummins.
"I'm going to do Kokoda," she said adding, "but in my own time. And with my man, hopefully."